Some Advice

Some who come to this site, come with foreboding. You suspect something is going on with your loved one, and you are carefully, oh so carefully, dipping your toe in to your puddle of suspicions.

I want to commend you and to encourage you. There is great hope here at this blog.

I have seen many, many who have conquered alcohol addiction. I don’t know everything about drug addiction, (but I know a great deal about alcohol addiction)  but I can truthfully attest to the fact that learning about the addiction and taking the steps is a great start.

Take the test to see if you are an enabler. I take it regularly. It has veracity whether you are self evaluating because of an addict in the family or whether you are examining yourself regarding relationships with others. I find that I am totally an ENABLER!

I take the test often. It is changing me. I don’t hop up as fast to help others when they don’t ask for help. I try to let others learn from their mistakes and I do not choose to soothe them until they are ready to acknowledge their errors. That’s only a little fraction of my personal experience taking the quiz.

The key seems to be us…the sober ones. The addict is pretty much out of control. So it is VERY important for you to gather information and then take action.

I am witnessing wonderful turn-arounds in many lives. These ones are experiencing a new life, and a new “joie de vivre”. Their enjoyment level, ambition level, dream level, love level…all are rising .

 Each addict is growing and thriving. Each one does not want to return to that old life; that trap, that Hell on earth. 

But remember. Each one that succeeds has to come to the point where he or she absolutely has reached the “end” of his or her self. Each one has come to a point of recognizing that there is a Supreme Being; God is His name, and His Mercy is abundant and never ending. Each one has to cry out for help, and recognize that he/she cannot do this himself.

This is where YOU come in. You have stopped enabling; stopped looking the other way; stopped making excuses. You don’t care who knows. (People know anyway, and need to know that you are facing the problem) You allow the addict to stand or fall on his own.

Then and only then will he/she consent to treatment. And TREATMENT is absolutely totally necessary. These places are way far more knowledgeable and able to treat each level of the healing process than we. There are many levels to healing and stopping drinking or drugging is only the start.

So take the test. Be of good courage. Pray for your addict. Have hope. Stand firm.

Good days are ahead.