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Friday, November 29, 2013

Grief...On Support and Community




            Society begins with a circle.   I am going to draw you a visual picture. I hope I do not confuse you. 
            Each of us is surrounded by “social” circles…The center and key circle (#1) ought to be God…If its not God, then it might be Sports, television, Addictions, Hunting…whatever. (Everybody serves somebody)
            Do I have your attention?
            The circle surrounding the  “center” (God center) is the family unit. This unit can be complicated. Father, step-father, mother, step-mother, brothers, half-siblings, step children, and significant others belong here. This is the place where one receives personal nourishment, care, and security. It is a vital circle.
            The next circle surrounding this (circle #3) group are friends (church, clubs, organizations)..and often more family,  This circle hopefully strengthens and compliments the previous circle. This group of church and organizational members  should be a support of the family circle whether it is a strong family unit or a weak and needy structure. Sometimes this circle (of church, friends, and extended family) takes the place of the family unit circle IF that unit is fragile and unstable.
             The next circle (#4) surrounding this church-friends-extended family group is the community or communities…It can include the county and state. This circle is definitely the largest (but not necessarily the most important) circle. It doesn’t always “contribute” to the function of the other circles. It functions BECAUSE of the other circles.
            The community is the sum total of the circles it surrounds. And it functions and draws its energy from the other circles.
            We are not islands unto ourselves.
            We need each other. What our Community is depends entirely on each of us working together.
             This community is an outstanding place to live. We are fortunate to live in a community like Larned where we can truly say that we are not alone. Ever.
            Why is that? It is because many of the people here are God-centered. It is because there are strong families, churches, and organizations. And it is because those that have extra can reach out to those who need help.  The support of the people, churches, clubs, and businesses of a community like Larned is crucial and demonstrates that we are not capable of “doing it” alone.
            Donna, the librarian, said it well..”I don’t think people often realize what we have in our community” Obviously, she was alluding to the reality that everyone doesn’t live in a community like this and what we have going on here is precious.
            Donna then mentioned several families in town that have experienced the “rallying” of community resouces and efforts to raise money for medical expenses during times of serious illnesses. The money may have been a drop in the bucket compared to the monstrous debt, but the help of the community gave encouragement and resources in a time of desperate need.  How wonderful that these families could feel and experience the encouragement that comes when others care.
            It’s not enough to have a strong family unit when tragedy and distress strikes. The next “circle” of church and friends jumps in with ideas and effort, but that too, isn’t enough. However, when ideas and direction are birthed in the third circle, then the next circle, the community, can act.
            For many of us, it takes years to realize the importance of helping others and being there when needs arise. However, there are young couples in this community that are rolling up their sleeves too…and its obvious that they “get it”. We cannot live separated and isolated from one another.
            There is a young family in town now who has accumulated horrendous medical bills because of a blessed premature baby with some complications. There will be more events and fun raisers for these “kids”.  Support and encouragement will erupt once again out of this community.
            And you know what? I know YOU will be there.

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