To the bystanders, family and friends. Learn how to NOT be a Victim

To the bystanders, family, and friends. Learn how to NOT be a Victim

  

   Victims feel things are happening to them and feel angry which leads them to the role of PROSECUTOR.
    After prosecuting, they feel guilty, so they move to the role of RESCUER to try to get rid of their feelings of guilt.
    When they rescue they have an expectation  (ie. Others gratitude, or other agreement, or that they’ll feel good about themselves, etc.). When the expectations are not met, they feel disappointed, afraid, hurt, etc. and return to feeling like victims and the triangle continues …
    What determines whether or not a behavior is unhealthy or not is MOTIVE. For example, a person may withhold (love, for example) to punish someone (unhealthy) or they may be withholding affection to take care of themselves. (healthy).

                                      You are not a victim

       How deeply ingrained our self-image as a victim can be!  How habitual our feelings of misery and helplessness are!  Victimization can be like a gray cloak that surrounds us, both attracting that which will victimize us and cause us to generate the feelings of victimization.

        Shake it off!!!  Don’t be a victim. Take off the gray cloak of despair, negativity, and victimization. Let it go. Let it blow away in the wind.

        No more shoulders bent, head down, we shuffle through life looking like pathetic martyrs.

        

       We are NOT VICTIMS. We may have been victimized. We may have sought out, created or recreated situations that victimized us. But we are NOT victims.

        We can stand in our power. We do not have to allow ourselves to be victimized. We do not have to seek our misery in the most miserable or the best situations.

        SET a BOUNDARY. Deal with anger!  Tell someone NO! or STOP THAT!. Walk away from the relationship. Ask for what YOU need. Make choices and take responsibility for them. Explore options. Give yourself what YOU need. Stand up STRAIGHT, HEAD UP, and claim your POWER. Claim RESPONSIBILITY for yourself.

          AND learn to enjoy what is good.

Say this or PRAY this. “TODAY, I WILL REFUSE TO THINK, TALK, SPEAK, OR ACT LIKE A VICTIM. INSTEAD, I WILL JOYFULLY CLAIM RESPONSIBILITY FOR MYSELF AND FOCUS ON WHAT IS GOOD AND RIGHT IN MY LIFE”

SCRIPTURE FROM THE BIBLE:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things